Resources
Whether you’re learning about IFS, healing from trauma, or looking for ways to care for your body, below you’ll find some of my favorite resources for feeling humans, organized by topic for ease.
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Video: IFS Founder Dick Schwartz gives a brief explanation of IFS here: https://amzn.to/418fTu4
Video: Lissa Rankin has recorded a longer Intro to IFS video with lots of examples: https://vimeo.com/953136381
Insight Timer has free IFS medications with Richard Schwartz: https://insighttimer.com/drrichardschwartz
Bill Tierney offers Parts Work Practice Groups: https://www.billtierneycoaching.com/parts-work-practice/
The IFS PTSD Efficacy Study: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epdf/10.1080/10926771.2021.2013375?
A more recent pilot study on the efficacy of IFS for comorbid PTSD and Substance Abuse: https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2025.1544435/full
Video: Steph Stern’s Befriend Your Inner Critic Workshop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MV-WbLK9TGA
Check out Parts Atlas on Instagram to see how one IFS practitioner draws and communicates with her parts: https://www.instagram.com/partsatlas
Podcast: “Inside an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Session with Glennon & Richard C. Schwartz” on We Can Do Hard Things: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inside-an-internal-family-systems-ifs-therapy/id1564530722?i=1000651142595
An article by Anne Kubitsky about helping kids develop emotional intelligence using IFS: https://partsandself.org/emotional-literacy-for-kids/
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If you want to improve your relationship…
Book: Getting the Love You Want by Helen LaKelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix is another great resource.
Esther Perel also has a card deck for deepening intimacy for with your partner: https://game.estherperel.com/products/where-should-we-begin-a-game-of-stories-2nd-edition - It’s great for dates nights!
Similarly, the Gottman’s have a free app with questions for increasing intimacy: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/
If you’re curious about Terry Real’s approach to couples therapy (Relational Life Therapy), read this article from the The New York Times: https://terryreal.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/NYTimes_How-I-Learned-That-the-Problem-in-My-Marriage-Was-Me-The-New-York-Times-2.pdf
An Article by Celeste Davis called “The marriage advice every couple needs, but no one gets:” https://celestemdavis.substack.com/p/the-marriage-advice-every-couple
If you’re in a blended family…
If you’re navigating a unique situation…
Book: If you’re recovering from an affair, I highly recommend Esther Perel’s The State of Affairs.
Book: ADHD & Us: A Couple’s Guide to Loving and Living with Adult ADHDby Anita Robertson, LCSW is the best book I’ve found for helping couples understand each other when one partner has ADHD and the other does not. It talks about both perspectives, and bonus—it’s short!
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If you want to explore your feelings…
Static Feelings Wheel: https://feelingswheel.com/
Dynamic Feelings Wheel: https://www.6seconds.org/2025/02/06/plutchik-wheel-emotions
Seth Lyons wrote this article about healthy anger: https://sethlyon.com/healthy-aggression-the-way-to-un-frustrate-frustration/
Blog: “Where Does The Locus Of Responsibility Lie When You’re Angry or Resentful” by Lissa Rankin MD: https://lissarankin.com/where-does-the-locus-of-responsibility-lie-when-youre-angry-or-resentful
A Technique for Forgiveness: https://www.heartmath.org/articles-of-the-heart/forgiveness/
Dr. Judith Orloff has great books and resources for people who identify as “Empaths:” https://drjudithorloff.com/
Video: Brené Brown on Empath vs. Sympathy: https://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw?feature=shared
If you want to heal your nervous system…
Video: Trauma and the Nervous System: A Polyvagal Perspective - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdIQRxwT1I0
Video: Dr. Dan Siegel’s Hand Model of the Brain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-m2YcdMdFw&t=292s
Irene Lyons has a plethora of free resources about healing the the nervous system: https://irenelyon.com/ - I strongly recommend her 21-Day Tune Up.
A Dissociation Overview created by Hope for the Journey: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/tmrfo1qswfklwmerf65m3/Dissociation-Cheatsheet.pdf?rlkey=1zcsfff0h6558daqkvhrvs08s&st=7tb8xz1o&dl=0
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Dr. Christine Henry has an extremely comprehensive library of links and resources for learning about ADHD/Autism: https://therapyforpetpeople.com/resources-for-neurodivergence
If you want to learn about ADHD…
ADDitude Magazine has an online presence with lots of articles and information about ADHD: https://www.additudemag.com/
Gina Pera’s website is great for people who are in relationship withADHDers: https://adhdrollercoaster.org/
Book: As mentioned above, ADHD & Us: A Couple’s Guide to Loving and Living with Adult ADHDby Anita Robertson, LCSW is the best book I’ve found for helping couples understand each other when one partner has ADHD and the other does not. It talks about both perspectives, and bonus—it’s short!
Podcast: “What ADHD Feels Like with Jaklin Levine-Pritzker” on We Can Do Hard Things: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-adhd-feels-like-with-jaklin-levine-pritzker/id1564530722?i=1000650685291
Podcast: “The Truth About ADHD in Adults: Harvard’s Dr. Chris Palmer Explains the Research” on The Mel Robbins Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truth-about-adhd-in-adults-harvards-dr-chris/id1646101002?i=1000642865568
Find an experienced ADHD coach here: https://addca.com/adhd-coach-directory/
If you want to learn about Autism…
The Association for Autism & Neurodiversity is a great general resource: https://aane.org/
A website described as the “Ultimate Autism Resource” (includes self-assessments): https://embrace-autism.com/
If you want to learn about OCD…
Helpful OCD Books and Other Resources: https://iocdf.org/books
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If you want to understand trauma…
Annie Wright, LMFT, writes a weekly blog post about relational trauma that contains all sorts of gems: https://anniewright.com/blog/
Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk is a bit dense, but it’s a classic when it comes to understanding complex or developmental trauma. Whether you had a few hiccups as a kid or a downright difficult childhood, this book is for you.
Book: I love everything by Gabor Maté, especially When the Body Says No and The Myth of Normal. I do very much believe that so many of today’s “mystery illnesses” are the result of trauma.
If you’re healing from narcissistic abuse…
Dr. Ramani is my favorite expert on healing from narcissistic abuse: https://doctor-ramani.com/ - her book It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People is the best resource I’ve found on this topic to date.
If you’re ready to reclaim your power…
Book: The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins is another book that might be for everyone. If you’d like to improve your relationships or feel a lot of frustration when other people do what they do, this is an easy read that can help. (Note: I’m aware there’s some controversy about the origins of this work, but I’m still recommending it for now.)
The Ripple Deck is a unique card deck that helps you reflect on your relationship to power: https://www.rippledeck.com/buy/p/rippledeck
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MAPS Integration Station is a comprehensive resource for psychedelic integration: https://maps.org/integration-station
The UC Berkeley Center for the Science of Psychedelics puts out an amazing weekly newsletter that covers news, politics, and everything in between: https://psychedelics.berkeley.edu/about-the-microdose/
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If you’re looking for trauma-informed support with your body or health…
Lymph and Fascia Expert Kat Rieb in Austin: https://www.yourbestselfatx.com/
Tigerlily Acupuncture in Austin (Vanessa is the best!): https://tigerlilyacupuncture.com/
Rachel Carter offers amazing craniosacral treatments: https://craniosacralandmassage.com/
Here’s my recommendation for pelvic floor physical therapists: https://www.theoriginway.com/
If you need to move your emotions out of your body…
Stephanie Nosco is my favorite qi gong teacher. You can also find a variety of her classes on Glo, and you can get a two-month free trial here: https://www.glo.com/r/jw3nydr3pg
The Class Digital is my favorite at-home workout program because it helps you move through difficult emotions while giving you plenty of workout options. Get a free month here: https://browse.theclass.digital/signup?referral=b2751358-1b65-47f2-b140-19b167589d15
If you need a little boost…
Quantum Biology and Circadian Rhythm Practitioners Sarah Kleiner and Carrie Bennett - it’s amazing what happens when you get some sun!
Red Light Therapy has all sorts of benefits. I love indulging in a full-body treatment as places like Alive & Well in Austin, or you can buy your own device for home use. EMR-TEK is the brand I recommend.